Communication

 Did you know there are 3 ways of communicating?

• Words-14%
• Tone-35%
• Nonverbal cues-51%

How crazy is that? But just think about it for one minute, it's completely true. Tone is one I tend to notice a lot. The way someone says something to you, they are either normal, not happy, not nice, annoyed, sad, etc. And the list goes on and on and then you are able to respond in either a like manner, or in a complete opposite direction.
    When we communicate with people, it is normal to have conflict. Naturally we think of conflict and we think "bad" but conflict can actually be good and even healthy for a relationship. First, it brings things out in the open. Second, explaining it helps you see it in another way and can change your mind. And lastly, you can get to the underlying problem. This is all good believe it or not! When I hear couples who say they never fight or argue, it makes me wonder if something is wrong with them. That sounds harsh, but no one agrees on every single thing in this world! Sometimes it's fun to argue just for the fun of it. (I like to win arguments) But it is important for good communication in all relationships. Ways of open communication that we talked about in class are:

• Discuss it until there is a consensus. Or until we know God's will.
• "If ye are not one, ye are not mine." One heart and one mind=Zion.
• Meet together on a regular basis so it's not just "putting our fires."
• Give the opportunity and be prepared for the counsel.
• Express love and concern.

Something else I heard in class that I loved was:

We go to the temple to make covenants. We go home to keep them.